Yes, adoption can be scary. Yes, those who adopt are well aware of those fears. If you know someone who is adopting, be a good friend and don’t remind her of those fears by asking questions that will simply make her stay awake all night with worry.

It’s not uncommon for those who are adopting to be approached by friends or loved ones with all of the adoption nightmare stories you hear on expose television shows. It’s somewhat like how pregnant women are approached by other women with labor pain stories. Unfortunately, not every adoption story ends with a happily ever after wrap up, but they are the minority. Most adoptions are successful blessed events. People who have decided to adopt a child are well educated about the emotional and financial risk factors. They have decided to go forward with an adoption despite the risks.

The family that is adopting could even specify that they would be open to adopting a child who has special needs, is disabled, or is (gasp!) a teenager. It’s nearly impossible for anyone to adopt who has not received counseling in preparation; and the more challenging the circumstances, the more counseling may continue after the adoption is finalized. Everyone desires,the same thing, which is the best outcome for themselves and the child.